So what is the answer to one of the most commonly
asked question in dating ever since the beginning
of time:
How do I turn a friend in to a lover?
Simple.
It's all a matter of know when when and how to
play your cards right with your target of choice.
These are my 6-steps to get you out of the friend
zone and get women sexually interested in you...
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1. Limit your availability.
I'm willing to bet that whenever this girl does
call you, you eagerly answer the phone and chat
with her for as long as she wants.
You THINK that when you spend two hours on the
phone with her, sharing your life stories and
telling her about the girl who broke your heart
when you were in the tenth grade, you're building
some kind of deep "connection" with her.
But what you're actually doing is removing ANY
sense of mystery about yourself, and letting her
know that you have nothing else going in your l
ife... and no other women.
This is massively UN-attractive to her.
(I know that when you're a man who is struggling
with his dating life, and haven't hooked up with
a chick in a while, this takes a LOT of
discipline.
Your instinct is to make yourself totally
available to her and try to spend as much time
as possible with her. Well, go ahead and keep
doing it this way, if you want to keep wondering
why women keep placing you in the friend zone...)
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2. Until you've slept with a woman, limit your
phone chats with her to five minutes.
And don't get caught up in constant text-messaging.
Give her the sense that you're a busy man with
places to be.
Use these short phone calls, or text exchanges,
to lock down your plans to see her again.
Save the deep conversations for when you are
actually spending time with her.
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3. Women are moody and emotional.
Get used to it, and know how to deal with it.
When she start acting weird or distant, she is
testing you.
She wants to see how you will respond.
Do you kiss her ass and ask her "what's wrong?"
Do you get frustrated and angered by her
behavior?
(Either of these responses will only make her
get more moody!)
Or, do you behave like a firm, direct MAN?
(Tell her, "Well, I can tell you've got some
things on your mind right now, so why don't you
take some time to sort it out and get back to
me.
I've got some things I need to handle right
now.")
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4. Her ex-boyfriend is irrelevant.
Women commonly use the excuse:
"I got out of a bad relationship recently, I
don't know if I'm ready for someone new, I
don't want to get hurt again," etc.
It's all crap, basically.
The truth is, if she met a confident,
attractive man RIGHT NOW who made her feel a
sexual connection, she'd forget about her
ex-boyfriend in about 2.3 seconds.
When she talks about her ex, and how she's
"not ready," what she really means is that
you're not making her feel attraction, and
so she's testing you to see what kind of man
you are.
You need to put her in a positive, fun state
of mind and keep her there. When she thinks
of you, she should think of fun times and
feeling good about herself.
The last thing you want to do is allow her
to dwell on her ex-boyfriend and be her
"shoulder to cry on."
If she ever mentions him, change the
subject.
And never refer to him by name because it
only aggravates her emotional state.
(Instead, refer to him as "that guy." Make
him seem irrelevant and insignificant.)
HER: "I guess I'm just in a bad mood today
because it would have been my third
anniversary with my ex, John..."
YOU: "Well it sounds like that guy didn't
appreciate you the way he should have, and
it's his loss.
I'm just glad we're getting to
know each other, because I can tell there's
a lot more to you than meets the eye.
So tell me more about ________"
(Change the subject onto something that gets
her in a positive, talkative mood).
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5. Never confess your attraction to her.
Women interpret this as a sign of weakness.
You've been taught by the media that woman
want a soft, sensitive guy who isn't afraid to
confess his feelings.
Actually, the opposite is true.
She needs to know you are a strong, emotionally
secure and confident MAN.
Once you've got a sexual relationship going
with her, and she's bonded to you, feel free to
be a sweet, loving boyfriend and do all of the
romantic things that drive her wild.
But until then, you've got to play it cool.
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6. Finally, be willing to "man up" and walk away.
If for whatever reason she just can't sort out
her feelings, cut her loose.
Trust me, if you were involved with two or three
OTHER women right now, you wouldn't have the
time or the interest to play games with some
chick who can't make up her mind.
When you have multiple options, you will ALWAYS
feel confident and in control.
Don't make the mistake that most guys make, and
place "all of your eggs in one basket."
This is also one of the biggest mistakes guys make
when they want to turn a friend into something more.
They focus too much on that one girl.
Once a woman has mentally placed you in "The
Friend Zone," it's difficult to change her
feelings towards you.
Ideally, you never want to her to view you as
her platonic, non-sexual "buddy" in the first
place.
This is why when you do meet up with women for a
date, you've got to take things in a sexual
direction.
This doesn't mean you have to sleep with women
on the first date.
But you MUST establish some physical contact and
make her feel that you're a sexual possibility
for her.
That's the difference between guys who always
suffer in the "Friend Zone," and guys who GET IT
DONE.
If you're constantly pulling your hair out trying
to figure out how to get that ONE SPECIAL GIRL
you've always fantasized about (but she ONLY
treats you as a friend/brother and NOTHING else),
go to this site to learn how to CHANGE HER MIND
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