3 Dating Secrets Your Friends HIDE From You

Hey,

I received an email from a TRL reader today, a guy named CHRIS from Mombasa. Apparently, he has difficulties getting numbers from the

girls that he chats with on the Internet.

It really isn't that hard to do, though, PROVIDED you do things
correctly. Read below for what he had to say:-

"Martin, I think I have mastered my intro email. I give great
responses and one woman even said: 'Funnily enough, I don't really
respond to anybody here unless I know them from other friends.
However, your annoying attitude really attracts me, for some
reason.' Needless to say, I'm really pleased with the results so
far!"

My question is this: How are you able to move so fast from being
cocky to asking them for their phone numbers - basically asking
them to do things for you?

Here's my answer:
Chris, do you know why you haven't had any idea how to deal with this
kind of thing from the very start? It's because you were lacking
some important information. If you had had the Online Dating
Playbook, these girls would have shoved their numbers into your
hands right away!

I feel like you are uncomfortable asking for a girl's phone number
right away. You seem uneasy about going from "busting" on women to
quickly getting their phone numbers.

You see, if you are uncomfortable, women will feel the vibe of
nervous energy that you send out. They will feel like something
isn't right and that you aren't projecting a calm and confident
energy. Because of this, you do not get ANY phone numbers at all.

It is easy to remedy this, though. Act "normal".

If you act like moving fast isn't that big of a deal - that it is
normal for you to do it that way and that is how you usually roll -
she will not make a big deal out of it, either.

My friend Luke is NATURALLY good with women. One thing he would do
to test things out was leave a baby playpen inside the living room.
Yes, a PLAYPEN!

He doesn't have children, but he decided to just do it to see what
would happen. Do you know what happened?

The women would come to see him at his place and get sight of the
playpen, but he wouldn't say anything nor make excuses for it. In
turn, the women would simply start getting into the playpen,
dancing in it, while drinking and going wild, as usual.

Strange, huh?

The thing is: Luke didn't make a huge deal out of it, so the women
didn't, either.

There must be a reason why some guys really succeed while other
guys just move along without any actual gains.

Well, there is. If one reason needs to be pinpointed on why guys do
not "succeed" with dating online, this would be it:  they give up -
usually because they get frustrated by their lack of positive
results.

Frustration comes about because they didn't do the things that I
have mentioned here so far. Without a clear model to learn and
practice regularly, it is pretty much impossible NOT to feel
frustrated.

So here's what you need to do. First, say "thank you" for the
reply. Reply to her email with only a few sentences, and THEN say
"Hey, I'm not too fond of emails. WHAT'S YOUR PHONE NUMBER?". End.

Yes, that is how easy it is. As a matter of fact, I have already
received 14 new numbers last two weeks from several babes by doing
just that.

See, women want men to take the lead, but the majority of guys send
35 emails to and fro to develop an online relationship. That's
crazy.

Time is precious and doing that is like having another full-time
job. So listen to me:- send an email, get her phone number, and
move things into the real world.

Do not get used to sending emails to and fro. Move things along
because she will be getting more than 50 emails every day from tons
of OTHER guys! If you stop making a huge deal out of it, she won't
make a huge deal out of it, either.

Most importantly, act on it and DO NOT back down, REGARDLESS OF
WHAT HAPPENS.

I hope this helps you!

MARTIN MURIITHI